Author shares insight into parent-child personality conflicts
2:17 p.m. Tuesday, March 13, 2007
The relationship between parent and child can be aided by the DISC model, says local author Susan Crook. That model is explained in detail in Crook's newest book, Personality Insights for Mom.
DISC, which is broken up into D, I, S and C words, represents a model of behavior. D words are, for example, driven, determined, decisive, do-ers.
"They are bosses. They like to run the show," Crook said.
I stands for inspiring, interactive, involved and influential.
"They are people-oriented. They want to be with lots of people all the time. They love attention," she said.
S words are sweet, status quo, stability and supportive.
"They are very supportive, and they want you to support them," Crook said. "For example, teachers, nurses -- people who love to take care of others."
C stands for cautious, calculating, contentious and correct.
"They are very analytical types," she said. "They are people who want rules followed and details taken care of."
Most people have a primary and secondary way of fitting into the DISC model.
A lot of times children can be a lot different than their parents, which can be scary, she said.
Crook's book, Personality Insights for Moms, helps moms understand that it's okay for children to be different than their parents, and lays out the pros and cons of each personality type.
"It's so important to see that it's okay to be different, and not to expect them to be like us," she said.
A mom who falls under the C category and her child who is primarily an I personality may disagree about behaviors and choices in life. For example, the I child will procrastinate on homework, upsetting the C mom.
A child's personality weaknesses might be supported by a parent's personality strengths.
"That mom, rather than being aggravated at that child for not being who she is, who planned and got it all done ahead of time, that mom can sit down, establish boundaries and guidelines and parameters to help that child be able to be more organized," Crook said.
Crook's book, Personality Insights for Mom, has one six awards, including the honor of Parenting Book of 2006.
To learn more about the book and the author, log on to SusanCrook.com/Book.
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